Three Reasons Why Normalizing Being Quiet Is Challenging
1. Humans are social animals and quiet people are often seen as black sheep until proven otherwise.
Quiet people are often discriminated against in all sorts of ways from a young age. The toxic, shallow culture of forming opinions and judging everything and anything finds difficulty getting a read on quiet people and as a result it decorates them in all sorts of negative epithets, assumes the withholding of information and paints them as black sheep until they provide something beneficial to society.
This contribution must reach a point that earns them enough recognition to act as proof of the obvious: Just being different. Not problematic, shy, boring, hostile, antisocial, snobbish or incompetent, just different.
2. Talking is an expected social norm in almost all situations.
Think about it, the concept of silence and being quiet is highly specific to certain areas or events for a limited amount of time like classrooms, the church, funerals, libraries and so forth. The etiquette is there for a reason that isn’t always respected even if it’s in place temporarily and afterwards we’re back to the usual loud, gossipy world we’re all more or less used to, a world in which avoiding to participate in the aforementioned brings us back to point one.
3. Asking people to be quiet relies on their capacity to consider it and how appropriate it is to the occasion.
In other words, loudness will exist by default in almost all situations no matter what you say or do and the responsibility of attempting some kind of balancing act falls to you personally. In essence, people have officially every right to talk and be as loud as they can get away with while you’ve got to get into a confrontation for "winning some quiet time" in public.
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