Three Things Introverts Deeply Appreciate
1. When you truly make an effort to understand us.
As introverts we spend more time within our heads for better or worse (cue the overthinking) yet the irony is we’re observant at the same time. Consequently we tend to pay attention to other people’s personality quirks and preferences while making sure when possible to respect them. Attempting to do the same shows us you care and we will not only appreciate that but it will encourage an overall healthier relationship.
This is something that can be universally valued but it holds a special place for us due to the difficulty we may have with externalizing and speaking our mind sometimes which obviously is a negative tendency we need to improve on too.
2. People giving us a notice in advance before inviting us anywhere.
The time period is subjective and depends on the individual but a good estimate is at least 2-3 days in advance. The reasoning behind it is that we need time to mentally prepare before socializing, think of it like “warming up the engine”.
If a notice is not possible then a few hours prior will go a long way depending on the circumstances and how familiar they are but expecting us to go “right now” or in a few minutes is a deal breaker unless for some reason we’re in the mood and you happened to ask at the right timing.
3. When you seek to spend one-on-one time with us.
For the sake of not misunderstanding this point, assume we’re talking about friendships and not romantic relationships. The less people around the more at our best we are and it is the recipe for a quality conversation, interaction or any other activity. It also ties in with the first point which shows you value our company enough to be okay with our presence only, bonus points if there are no “sudden guests”.
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